I feel inspired to share something with you about my human
experience. Change… and why the heck is it so hard? Why does it feel so uncomfortable: like slowly ripping a band-aid off? As I recently lost a family member, I found myself angry that I was forced into so many changes… yet again. Telling myself I needed to act a certain way, look a certain way, and there was definitely the occasional emotional eating!
After 15 years of intentional spiritual and personal growth, here I am not being an advocate for myself again, like an amateur!
For one, as an American, I wasn’t taught about being flexible. I wasn’t taught that change would really be the only consistent thing in my life. Two, I felt like I was punishing myself by taking something away every time I tried to create a new way of being. I’ve fallen into all of the newest fad diets, crazy expensive supplements, and latest wellness lifestyles. I, of course, did this unconsciously to force myself into portraying this ideal image that you see everywhere about peace, radiance, and the perfect picture of a “healthy” life. I realized I was punishing myself to fit in… just like grade school!
This led to the greatest epiphany of my life. I don’t need to take the things that I enjoy away and push myself into this box of perfection. I need to treat my body and mind with respect, honor and reverence for supporting my spirit on this journey literally 24 hours a day, even
when I am sleeping. I realized instead of taking things away (also known as dieting), I need to GIVE myself the tools and support I need to grow. For example organic fruits and vegetables, and boundaries from things that no longer serve my highest good (including people). Food and lifestyle choices created with intention are what I was really craving all along. This shift in perspective was a sweet invitation to explore a different way of making changes. Instead of depriving and punishing myself, I am now choosing to give the totality of my being what it needs to thrive instead of just survive.
I invite you to explore these same nuances in your thought patterns. As you start to persecute yourself for not being enough, for cheating on your diet, or letting energy vampires stay attached to your energy field, ask yourself this simple question: Is this the way I would talk to my best friend if they were trying to be a different, dare I say, better person? Would I tell my best friend they weren’t good enough, skinny enough, funny enough? I would probably take a step back and say “don’t be so hard on yourself. You are worthy of happiness and becoming
the person you want to be.”
All you have to do is start giving to yourself, and stop taking away! Sounds so simple, but in order for change to be graceful we have to realize: We are worthy! We are worthy of change. We are worthy of all that change has in store for us. By making this seemingly small shift, I no longer fear change. I now look forward to the growth that the fluidity of life has to offer. I sincerely hope this perspective can help you too!
I will leave you with the beautiful words of Jimi Hendrix:
“Change is inevitable, growth is optional”
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